As Suicide Rates For Black Children Rise, Protecting Emotional Heath Is Vital

This article makes me worry greatly. In my everyday life I treat all young children the same but it is always important to me to engage the young black girls and boys I come in contact with whether its a smile, a hello, or just a you are so pretty or handsome. So to know that the rate of suicide for black children are rising worries me. Please share this article and think long and hard about the effects of it. We must fiercely protect our young. We must let them know that they matter, their voices matter, their opinions, and feelings. I am shocked by this article. Especially in the classroom, we must ensure our children are being included and not isolated, bullied or targeted. I have dealt with racist teachers before and it was not fun to be in their class or learn from them or listen to them. I thank God that I didn’t let their stupidity get to me, but no child should deal with that. Truly ask your kids about their day and their classes.

The researchers who found that suicide rates have doubled for Black children while declining for White children were surprised by their own results. These are the first recorded data in history for which Black suicide rates surpass that of other race groups. Suicide is what can happen at the extreme of when youth and adults are marginalized and lack the resources to cope with this marginalization. The reasons for the increase in Black children’s suicide are unknown. In today’s climate, however, efforts toward protecting children from the subtle and not-so-subtle burdens of discrimination and oppression seem warranted.

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Greenwood Massacre Survivor, Wes Young, dies at 97

I don’t know if I can post the whole article so I will post the beginning half and link to the rest. May the soul of this man and other survivors who have passed rest in peace, this is an important part of history that is not mentioned, but did happen. It’s a shame that they have not received reparations or justice, but we must keep their memory alive and bring them justice ourselves, because this cannot be swept under the rug any longer.

1921 GREENWOOD MASSACRE SURVIVOR, WES YOUNG, DIED TODAY AT 97 YEARS OLD

Wes Young

Wess H. Young Sr. 1921 Race Riot survivor, WW II Veteran, Father, Grandfather,  great-grandfather and friend passed this afternoon, September 30, 2014 at 4:00 pm in Dallas, Texas. He was surrounded by his grandchildren, great grandchildren, and great-great grandchildren. His wife of 60+ years, Cathryn J. Young passed December 1, 2013. Mr. Young was 97 years old.  Mr. Young was a great man,  a true warrior and patriot.  It was a great pleasure getting to know and represent him in our attempts to get justice for him and the other survivors who now number below 50.  Below is a summary of the 1921 Greenwood Massacre a/k/a The Tulsa Race Riot

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On May 31 and June 1 1921, a mob of  over 2000 Whites, under the protection of city and state law, pillaged and destroyed during the worst domestic terrorist attack in U.S. history. The terrorist mob destroyed 36 square blocks killed upwards of 1000 people, and left 10,000 Blacks homeless, destitute, and traumatized. Afterwards city and state officials condone this terrorism, blamed the innocent Blacks, and instituted a cover-up so successful the horrors of the Greenwood Massacre were effectively blotted out of history for almost 80 years. In fact, the cover-up was so successful that while going to school on Greenwood Street, I never once heard about the bombing!!!

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What to do?

Rekia Boyd, Reneisha McBride, Aiyana Jones, Troy Davis, Oscar Grant, Trayvon Martin, Eric Garner, and now Michael Brown. These are the names, with the exception of Troy Davis, of people who have been gunned down police or a faux police officer. How many more people have to die before we admit that law enforcement is full of racist officers who look at Blacks as not citizens, but criminals in the making?

The police during the March on Wall Street have proven, they are here to serve and protect those with money and Blacks are not on that list, unless you are clearly Lebron James or some other athletic figure. So what do we do? Now people are marching, protesting, and rioting. I don’t condemn the rioters because this is what happens when people are tired of history repeating itself. Black people have been killed without a second glance since the slave trade began and it continues now.

I don’t focus or pay attention to “New Blacks,” those agents “Rap artists”, and all those other we shall overcome people who have drank the Kool-Aid: “racism is dead in America.” All the “isms” that plague this country like the locusts plague Egypt have not disappeared. The main reason is because people would rather lie and pretend then face a hard truth; “nothing has changed.”

What people fought for back in the day has come to fruition but a lot of it has not. Anyone walking out in this world feeding their child Disney happy endings is doing their child a disservice. The music, which isn’t the only ill, is telling them to do stuff to get locked up and run from the cops, while denying the existence that you can be shot simply for breathing.

My folks always said that “ignorance of the law is no excuse,” ignorance of what it means to Black in America is no excuse because a bullet can end up in you either way. I have said it before and I will say it again, there needs to be a deep psychological reprogramming of the police force and Americans as a whole.

A police officer cannot serve and protect with their gun when they are bias. What do you get when you add: police officer + racist+ gun= what we have going on now. Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely. These cops are not here for us and will shoot us if they feel threatened, not whether or not they are actually threatened.

I don’t believe I will be teaching my child to run to the cops for anything because of what may be done to them. It is a long running joke that cops are criminals, every cop show has a crooked cop in it, and art imitates life, except we have police all over the 50 states waging war on unarmed black people as though lynching is coming back in style.

Not all cops are like this, just like all politicians are not dishonest crooks, but guess which stereotype thrives when 99.9% act like heathens. So what do we do? What do we do when we have to not just watch out for who our kids hang with, but the flashing police lights that want to stop them just because they are “too black?”

The names above who have died are lives that could have been saved. These innocent lives are lost while the Colorado movie theater shooter is still alive, and I’m sure a book deal and movie deal is coming his way, the Boston bombers, who caused much suffering, is still alive and even got a cover on Rolling Stone.

Yet, people are shocked at how America can sit back and defend Israel when they are killing innocent Palestinians. America can do this because they massacre people within their own borders and not think twice about it, why would thy not support their equal, Israel?

So now we know that we must protect our kids, but how do we do that? We do that by protecting our own neighborhoods, cops are not there for us, they already have prejudged us, and they won’t think twice to treat us like a first-person shooter game, without a reset button.

So we defend our neighborhoods physically, if a cop comes in there willing to shoot, he needs to have just as many guns pointed back at him. Notice they are not shooting armed people, but unarmed people, people they know have not weapons to defend themselves. No cop is going to act irrational when he does not have the police power to back him up, unless he wants to die, and surprisingly considering their job, they don’t want to die.

A scenario like this protects an innocent life. People simmer down when they are outmatched and police officers are no different. I would love to see these officers bust into West Virginia or the rural parts, where they know the people are heavily armed, but they wouldn’t because they know 1,000 guns would be pointed at their heads.

Physically defense of our neighborhoods is not the only way to protect our neighborhoods, we must be very careful of who we elect to office, meaning not every Black politician will get our vote and every white and other politicians, will need to prove that they are non-racist and truly for us. If they switch up once in office, then we pull the house of cards down and get them tossed out.

The trick to this is to look at their language, how do they talk about Black people and black neighborhoods, do not get caught up in the new issue of the week that seems to pop up every presidential run, every governor run, or ever mayor run. Every big election has some huge issue attached to it: it was homosexual’s wanting to marry, and then it was universal health care, and so on and so on. These issues are used to gain money and support, but they do not help us in the least. They do not focus on us or tell us how we and our interest will be protected.

On Wall Street every group you can think of have lobbyists: Tobacco, Israel, Latinos, Farmers, car manufactures, Health insurance companies, Google, and more, but Black people have no lobbyists and it is hurting us. We need to lobby and we need more lobbyists whose focus is just for us and not for others, head nod to you NAACP. You don’t see Israel lobbyists focused on anything but Israel, they are not focused on LGBT, Latinos, or anyone else, they are focused on their interests and that’s why our government is scrambling to give them over $22 Million dollars in foreign aid to kill more Palestinians.

Another focus should be on whose pockets we are lining with our money. If you are not for us you do not get our money, it’s that simple. Many businesses are run by racist CEOs, executives, and owners; they could care less about Black life, so we make them. If any owner or CEO is funding the bail of or supporting someone who kills a black person, then we do not buy any of their products. We ban them from our homes; we make sure the markets in our neighborhoods do not hold them, but not buying them. No one likes losing money, there is a reason why Jesus told the rich of his day to not overcharge people, and the rich haven’t changed. They are consumed by a greed that is never satisfied and we should use that to our advantage.

Understand that we should be for self and no one will make us feel bad for it. People are quick to come to Blacks and label us racist while making deals behind closed doors, again their people are not the ones being gunned down in the street in every day ending in “y.”

Last but least we must not forget these names nor must we let these people get away with taking bright lives away from our community. Do your research, be the change, talk to your children, and kids focus on the news. Don’t believe anyone that tells you, you are in a post-racial America, that these black names did something to cause their death, and don’t believe any music that tells you to go jail, when you will end up in a body bag before you can make it to jail.

This is all I have to say, R.I.P to all the innocent lives lost to racist officers and racism in America.

Welcome to Post-racial B*llsh*t

I thank God for a thread on a site that I frequent that understood the Paula Dean explosion for what it is, a distraction.

The Supreme Court, the highest court in the land, but obviously does not have the highest thinkers in the land, voted 5-4 to strike down a very important part of the Civil Rights Act that concerns voting rights.

Section 5 of the Civil Rights Act does not allow states, especially states that historically discriminated against African-Americans rights to vote, from making changes to their voting laws or procedures without the approval of Congress. The justices of the court although split on this section did not touch it, but they did touch Section 4.

Section 4, focused on states that had a history of discriminating against African-Americans and disenfranchising them. Well those geniuses figured that these states needed less scrutiny since there has been a change in their attitude, I mean it was only 40-50 years ago they were asking Black people “how many jelly beans are in this jar?” just for them to get the right to vote. Some of us have parents, grandparents, great grandparents that are older than 40-50 years old and lived through such discrimination themselves!

What troubles me is the excuse given for such displays of madness: the data showing the necessity for Section 4 is “outdated” and does not reflect the “post-racialness” that is America today. Well gee, I guess all those people calling President Obama, Michelle Obama, and their two daughters all types of monkeys and n-words are just isolated incidents.

Let me break down how serious and important of an issue this is; the Supreme Court is the highest court in the land, it sets precedents on issues that will affect the voting choices of future generations should those issues re-emerge, aka Roe v. Wade. The highest court in the land that passed Plessey v. Ferguson, Separate-but-(UN)equal and Brown v. Board of Education of Topeka, striking down Separate-but-(UN)equal, has now set a precedence that Blacks can now be subjected to Jim Crow 2.0.

I am not on board with this 5-4 decision at all and the current Supreme Court justices on Robert’s court are full of it! Anyone who thinks that racist, diabetic, dried up, lazy, uncouth Paula Dean is worthy of more attention that this case is crazy. Paula Dean I am happy you are getting dragged and dragged you shall be, but your dragging will not overshadow such sneaky moves being made to send us back to Jim Crow.

There are attempts being made to take this country away from “illegals and others” meanwhile those others are who labored to build this country, yet the ones receiving the most benefits are the ones that did the least work.; unless you consider murder, rape, torture, and psychological brainwash serious labor, let me give you a tip that makes it much easier, chicken pox.

America is not post-racial, I don’t even know where words such as “post-racial” and “reverse racism” even came from, who is playing with Webster dictionary and making stuff up? Saying America is post-racial is like saying its “post-sexist” again both are LIES and I am sick of it. The decision makers would strip away Affirmative Action if they could, but don’t worry they’re working on it.

This decision doesn’t just hurt black people they hurt other minorities that seem to think they are a part of some exclusive club of white privilege, trust me you’re next. There seems to be a fairytale land where the Civil Rights Movement and the progress made from it cured all the ills of America, but it didn’t.

While the LGBT community is making strides in securing rights for themselves, we are left with our rights being stripped away. This does not mean there is a correlation between increase rights for LGBT people equaling declining rights for Blacks, this correlates with the mindset of those in positions of power, they want to be on the right side of history when convenient, be the hero on issues that garner the most media attention. Our rights should not be bargained, negotiated for, or bought, they are ours and we should have never had to fight for them to begin with!

You Supreme Court justices will be protested and President Obama it would be great if you spoke on this, but I really don’t expect that to happen. I don’t see you as the Black president, far from it, but I do see you as the President of the people and YOUR people, American citizens, are being unfairly targeted and I expect you to care.

 

 

Street Harassment Is Not a Joke!

Tiff J of The Intersection of Madness & Reality wrote an amazing piece on street harassment. She talks about the study of street harassment and how it affects women, especially Black women. Tiff J takes a stand against the misogyny and male privilege of street harassment, while giving an account of her own personal run in.

I do not understand why boys, no grown man would act such a way, think it is okay to make crude and inappropriate remarks to women. There have been stories of women with their children being harassed on the street. Imagine explaining to your young child what the words, some stranger on the street called you, mean.

Street harassment is a serious problem just like rape, sexual abuse, abuse, and more. Women should not fear for their safety if they choose to exert their power of being human by not engaging strangers in conversation. No woman should be attacked because she did not respond to cat calls or give her number to some guy.

The theme of males being able to assault women due to their egos being hit are becoming too common and I am not amused in the least. This issue does not only affect adult women, but young girls that are teenagers and younger.

The fact that women must cater to the ego of strange men is not a practice of democracy. Point blank, street harassment needs to be taken seriously and I strongly believe women should have the right to shoot such men, but the law would place these women in jail for murder rather than self-defense.

Young boys need to understand that screaming sexual and crude remarks or cursing a woman out because she ignores you is not okay. It is disrespectful and immature. No male is entitled to the acknowledgement or attention of a woman and should not feel so.

These young men need to be raised understanding that they do not have the right to treat a woman however they feel just because they feel slighted.

Please read the article by Tiff J in the link and share your thoughts about your own experiences or your own thoughts about street harassment.

Acceptance: The Magic Desire

Does everyone want to belong? Yes. Does everyone want to be in the “in” crowd? Yes. Does everyone want to be beautiful? Yes. Does anyone want to be tolerated? No.

As humans we want a lot of things and are told what to want, but everyone is or has gone through a phase of wanting to be accepted whether it’s by guys, girls, family, friends, anyone or anything. I have gone through that phase and every now and then I find myself going through it again.

No one is perfect no matter how one acts, appears, or seems no one is perfect and that is what needs to be drilled into the heads of people who seem to think that perfection exists.

I have two attitudes: sometimes I care and sometimes I genuinely don’t give a dang, but there are times where I shield myself to protect myself.

You must accept yourself flaws and all. As humans we tend to focus on our flaws and maximize them, but either way they are there for a reason. Like me I have hairy arms and there are times I don’t like them, but for one reason I refuse to shave them and it has nothing to do with pain it’s just something in me that refuses to do it.

Now have I seen arms worse them mine, yep but for me it’s my own flaw that I maximize but on most days I barely even realize it lol. But I have many moments when I like them more than when I don’t because it’s a part of me and it’s great to cover me from the winter lol. Weirdly no one ever says anything about them when I wear short sleeve shirts.

It’s easier said than done yes, but accepting yourself is important because the hurdles people jump through to be accepted could be avoided if they accepted themselves. You can’t want someone to find you amazing when you don’t find yourself amazing.

When you accept yourself you begin to build confidence, not in the way that you become big-headed or have to pick apart the next person to make yourself feel better, but a confidence that flows from the inside out.

Accept yourself no matter what others say, whether it be family, friends, idiots and more, cause at the end of the day they are not you and they couldn’t be if they tried.

Humility

I wanted to think of a clever title for this post, something that would grab the attention of anyone glancing through this site, but nothing exciting came to mind. Yet, I think the word alone is enough to possibly be an attention grabber.

Either last Sunday or a couple of Sundays ago, my pastor was talking about how important it is for one, that is physically able, to kneel down before God and pray to him. He said the action showed humility and submission to God and it is an action that only he deserves not man. The word humility stuck out to me for whatever reason.

Then a couple of weeks earlier I was on a kinda spiritual rant and something I said happen to just come out of my mouth, but the moment it left my mouth there was a ringing sound of clarity in my mind, like I had just spoken some truth that I never witness before. I said “Humility is a trait sorely lacking in this generation of children and then we wonder why they do not believe in God.”

Again the word humility popped back up. This post may or may not take a religious pathway, but the bottom line is that the word humility can be taken many ways and talked about many ways.

The first question, what is humility?

I don’t feel like looking at dictionary.com or anywhere else so I’ll come up with my own definition. Humility is the ability to be selfless rather than selfish, the ability to not only own up to mistakes but to try to mend those mistakes. The ability to notice your flaws and embrace them rather than ignore them. Basically the ability to understand that your feces does have a nasty smell just like everyone elses.

Yet, humility seems to be something archaic in the face of “Generation me” or as I like to call it “Generation Haters.” Humility seems to no longer exist or at least no longer a trait to be admired and I can see the effects of things being this way.

People no longer have the ability to be humble, heck some of them can barely spell the word let alone know what it means. The agenda being pushed now is to be aggressive, is to be perfect, is to be competitive, is to be an asshole, is to be solo-dolo, is to be cocky, is to be arrogant, and is to be a one man/woman show, especially at the expense of others.

Neither of these agendas have qualities that humility can coexist with. For example, the word hater has been baptized in the fountain of fuckery and reborn into the language of everyday use. How many times have you heard someone saying so and so is hating on them? that they need to get more haters by the time 2012 hits? or even the most famous phrase “My haters are my motivators”? I have seen these statuses more than I can count and they all sound the same with the bottom line being I need someone to hate on me to let me know I’m the shit.

The word hater has been used in so many formats and molded to fit so many situations that it has lost its meaning, basically if Girl A has on some shoes that does not compliment her outfit and her friend Girl B tells her so. Girl A will be quick to label Girl B as a hater and although Girl B could be a hater there is an even stronger possibility that the shoes are just ugly, but no one stops to think about that.

Humility and haters are like oil and water, they do not mix and they create phases when forced to (dropping chemistry knowledge). One should not need haters to somehow make them humble, even though that usually gives the person an even bigger head, humility is something that comes from within and a sense of self.

This can be linked back to religion and a person spiritual belief. I do not pray on my knees like I should and I’m horrible for it, but at the end of the day I know that there is someone more powerful than me that I will answer to when I am called home. I know that I have flaws, that I need this person to help me know what those flaws are and work on them. I know that if I am to carry on as though I am superior than I will be judge with that same mindset. I don’t know if I am wording this right, but if you have a strong religious or spiritual belief, it helps to keep you grounded in the sense that you are not all that, humility is taught to you.

It’s not to say that an atheist can’t be humble or that a person with a strong religious/spiritual belief can’t be arrogant and cocky, but in any way you have to be introduced to humility before you can associate with it, although I do believe some people inherit humility in some way, but its a long explanation.

However. it seems humility is a form of weakness rather than a strength based on how people talk about it. Say a teacher is teaching a lesson plan about who “discovered” America first and states that it was Christopher Columbus and a students kindly tells the teacher that it was not Christopher Columbus but an ancient Africans and an Asian commander of an ancient Chinese Dynasty that arrived in a ship bigger than Columbus’. Say the teacher gets angry with the student and kicks the student out of the classroom or something drastic and no this never happened to me.

The teacher displays a lack of humility to even give the possibility that the student is correct, but under the pride of being the teacher and feeling as though their degree gives them the stamp of correctness on everything they say, considers the student to be questioning their authority and their intelligence. Does the example show a situation of pride? Yes, but if the teacher were to give in that the student is correct they probably couldn’t handle it and I have had teachers like that in my life.

Despite humility not being deemed important I find it to be an important characteristic for people in this world to have. This is why some children and adults are complete buttholes now because of their inability to accept that they are not always right, but are quick to put on airs and cover it with pride and when they are confronted with an example of their wrong they feel personally attacked.

Think of a co-worker that has made a mistake and you possibly brought it to their attention and/or ended up having to correct it and they probably gave you the cold shoulder or you over hear them stating how you pointed the mistake out to humiliate them in some way and blah blah blah. To them you have exposed their flaw in something so small that they probably are plotting to get you fired in some way… joking… possibly.

Some see humility as another form of humiliation and I can see the connection since the ancient Greeks whose language a lot of English words are based on humility probably did come from the word humiliation, but they are two different things. To be someone who can accept their flaws rather than a person that degrades others to hide those flaws are hardly one in the same.

I am trying to say that  a lot of damage done to our youth is through the inability to show them how to use a weakness to their strength and how to not feel vulnerable because they are not “hard” or perfect 24/7. A lot of issues in our society could be helped if people understood what humility meant and have it.